I started thinking about honesty. Maybe the whole idea was overrated. Maybe coming clean is the ultimate selfish act, a way to absolve yourself by hurting someone who doesn't deserve to be hurt. I cheated on a test in the fifth grade with two friends. They confessed, got grounded, and failed the class. I never told anyone, and it never mattered. In a relationship, is honesty really the best policy?
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— Carrie
"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is the twelveth episode of the third season of Sex and the City, which aired on August 27, 2000.
Carrie struggles to find the right time to tell Aidan about her affair. Miranda tells a guy she's a stewardess in hopes of getting a date. Charlotte marries Trey MacDougal. Samantha sleeps with Trey's Scottish cousin, despite being unable to understand him.
Trivia[]
The title is a reference to the United States military policy of "Don't ask, don't tell" (DADT).
The title is a reference to the humorous policy of not wanting to know something. ("Tomorrow Never Dies")
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